For the last two years I have said to myself I want to be published! I felt like my images were good, but when comparing them to everyone else, I didn’t feel like they were “publish worthy”. You see, that was the problem! I compared myself to other photographers out there in the world. People I don’t even know and I got my hopes up and just never bit the bullet to send my work anywhere.

I blogged on here and that was it. I featured my weddings on my website and I still do but there is something exciting to get an email stating that I was published on THEIR blog…. someone else’s wedding inspiration blog! I knew that one day, yes one day…. it would happen…but when!?

In 2017 right after I had Henry, I went full time photography/stay(work) from home mom. I worked hard to get my style to where I felt like I wanted it to be and I kept getting more and more confident in myself, my worth and my work. I still was hesitant of rejection when thinking about submitting a wedding… I kept working hard to get the images I took exactly where I wanted them to be. In 2019 I looked back at all of my 2018 weddings and engagement sessions. I loved each and every photo taken…. So much, I just knew this was the time to start submitting. There was no way I would get rejection emails! So, I joined Two Bright Lights- a place where you can submit your photos to hundreds of publications and get your wedding and lifestyle photography published in print magazines, websites and blogs. I submitted EVERY wedding and engagement session I shot in 2018.

Not even 2 hours later after submitting Jillian and Joe’s wedding I had gotten an email saying it was accepted! Guys….I was dancing in my kitchen with excitement! I couldn’t believe it! MY FIRST PUBLISHED WEDDING!!!

Special thank you to all these amazing vendors who made Jillian and Joe’s wedding oh so beautiful! Thank you to WEDDING BOSTON for accepting this publication! I am so honored and so thankful!!

Dress: Alexandra’s Boutique- Essence of Australia | Florist: Artistic Blossoms | Venue: Indian Pond Country Club | DJ: Holtie Produtions | Videographer: Digital Video Productions | Cake: Montillio’s Baking Company | Invitations: Minted


THE BRIDE: Getting Ready | my thought process during these moments

THE BRIDE: Getting Ready | my thought process during these moments

Sometimes I am feel like I struggle with what to write… What do brides want to know? I was a bride once…. what were some things I wanted to know when planning my own wedding? Today’s post I am going to be focusing on specifically what is going through my mind when the bride is getting in her dress!

During this time, I am looking for a few very important things:

  1. Access to natural light. I do not like to use the lights in a room and typically you will see me turn them off. I want all the natural light I can get and it needs to be full length if possible. What I mean for this is that I do not want to use a small window that is high because that will only expose the brides torso properly when the full body/gown is what should be photographed.
  2. I am looking for a clean space, neutral with zero distractions in the background! This means that I might ask the bridal party to clear out any clutter and trash from earlier in the day in one specific area of the getting ready space.
  3. I need mom and bridesmaids to be dressed before the bride. I usually will begin to let them know they can start getting ready about 20 minutes before the bride gets in her gown.

So, once I have those things and the girls are changed and ready… now it’s time to process through all of the “must-have” shots that I want and need to capture.

In my head, this is what I am almost always thinking when the bride is about to get in her dress…. and I’m actually going to write it like I process it internally so that it really does show you how I work and achieve my end result :

-Okay soooo Let me just scope out the area to see where my best light is coming from… She’s going to get dressed over near the large window there but I will need to over-expose the background and if I don’t have any reflecting light inside the room to bounce back on to her, I am not going to want to stay in that spot for very long incase the back lighting is too strong and the photos do not come out. So I will do a few back light and then I can change my position over here but we will need to clean up the half of the room to get zero clutter in the background. hmmm I might be able to pull her veil around her to soften the light on her too so the light is not too harsh on her face.

– Next, I’m thinking about vertical and horizontal…. I always need some vertical shots of the “getting in the dress” process for blogging purposes. These vertical shots show the whole dress and once I take that vertical shot, I scoot in close for another vertical shot that is tighter. (I do this because I’m thinking of the blog post! I also want to capture one of two gorgeous horizontal shots of this part of the day too! Horizontal shots will break up the blog post AND give my couple get options for their album design!)

– After the bride is zipped, buttoned or laced into her dress, then I have a whole new list of things that I want to capture. I work hard to capture some vertical shots of JUST the bride acting like she’s putting her earrings in. I usually use my 50mm for these shots so that it’s focused just on the bride and the background is out of focus.

– Now is the time when I get to be creative because I’ve gotten my “must have” shots. Many brides will have their mom or MOH help them get ready, or even both! When its time for putting on shoes and the veil, I am more relaxed knowing I go those first initial important moments I can move around and get different angles and if I am in an angle I really like, I might stage a few of the getting ready ( zipper/button shots) again from a different view.

So before I go I should probably share that EVERY wedding is different and this is just ONE example to learn from!!! I hope that it was helpful walking through my thought process during this 10 min span of the wedding day!!! If you like hearing my thought process and my approach to certain parts of the day, let me know and I’ll keep doing them!! 



Your Wedding Budget | What to Save and Splurge on

Your Wedding Budget | What to Save and Splurge on

Budget Blog.jpgHi Friends! Happy…. Tuesday? I feel like I have no idea what day it is lately! I need to get better with that, so yes! Happy Tuesday! I asked over on my instagram for some blog post ideas that you may want to see in the upcoming posts, and today I am sharing one that a bride asked me about: Wedding Budget- Where to spend and where to splurge! 

When it comes to a wedding budget, you might be feeling frustrated when searching for vendors and all the things for your wedding day. Planning your wedding comes with a lot of pressure and conversations about the things you should spend money on and what you should save on. While there are few right and wrong answers for an event like this,   ( I say this because it is your event and your day, and you can plan it however you please.) there are some recommendations that I can provide to help you along the way.

In many cases, when it comes to certain things, I will search on how to save money but lets be real, I can be a bit of an over spender too when it comes to others. Budgets are different for everyone so this will be hard to share some advice, but it is something I recommend you to think about before starting your wedding planning process.

When thinking about this blog post and how to communicate my thoughts, I compiled a list based on what I did when planning my wedding day. The most important thing to remember when reading is that even if these prices are not your budget, the recommendations of what you could spend and/or save on will still stay the same.  The prices below are a reference for you to see what you can expect to spend in certain circumstances, and what you could possibly save on if you went another route.


Wedding Flowers: Savings $4,000+

I love flowers and I LOVE photographing them, but I am also a firm believer that a little can go a long way. First, decide on the overall look you want when it comes to your wedding flowers. Create a Pinterest board and pin like crazy and then seek out smaller florists whose work you don’t see everywhere. These vendors may be who are most likely looking to build their portfolio of clients and who not only have lower prices, but might be more open to negotiating.  I personally am not a fan of negotiating someones work when it comes to the wedding industry, but if you want to make it work for your budget, there is no harm in asking. Another option is to DIY your wedding flowers with a retailer such as Costco, or go with a local grocery store who can create and deliver the arrangements for you. Many of my brides have used Whole Foods or Hannafords for their flowers and I was amazed when I heard that! I never would have thought to look at a grocery store for wedding flowers. (Mindblown!) My last idea would be to ditch the boutonnieres and use something meaningful. For my wedding the groomsmen each had a pink ribbon on their jackets in memory of my mother who passed away from breast cancer in 2002. You can also use the bridesmaid bouquets as your centerpiece flowers!

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another option for the centerpiece is not having flowers. You can search a bunch of DIY centerpieces and you can most likely find the materials to make them from online yard sale sites like the Facebook Marketplace. There are great sites just for brides selling their details and the price of them can also be negotiated.

Wedding Cake: Savings $1,000.00+

Many venues will have a cake included in their wedding packages. If this is the case, when going to your testing, you have options to add on and upgrade to filling, layers, etc. You can choose to stay with the simple type of cake that the package included to stay within budget. The simple cake is always yummy and no one will remember what filling you had inside. Another way things add up here is having additional desserts. This can add up especially when you have a large wedding guest list. One idea I heard about from some of my brides is that you can get a small cake made just for the cake cutting ceremony of the night and then behind the scenes, a large sheet cake can be cut and given to guests. No one will know the difference.

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Champagne Toast: Savings $600.00+

Having some bubbly at a party is always a good time, however, you can serve a champagne alternative instead and you will be able to enjoy the sparkles without feeling the guilt of being over budget. One idea you can utilize is, instead of having guests raise their champagne glasses, you can have them raise the drink they have in their hand instead of having a separate champagne pour. The reason I think this option ends up working so well is because chances are by the time the wedding toast comes around you’re already seated at the reception tables and drinking your beverage of choice for the evening. It will save you money and guests will never notice.

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Wedding Favors: Savings $300.00 +

Thanking guests for coming to your wedding is an amazing thing to do (and you should!) but it’s easy to go overboard. This is something you can DIY an create something that is personal and homemade. Some ideas are: DIY sugar scrub, adult hot coco, chocolates… I am sure Pinterest has many more ideas for you. Also, if DIY isn’t your jam, you can search for wedding favors under $3.00 per person.

Wedding Invitations: Savings $600+

These days a simple way to send out an invitation is electronically. You can really save money this way, however I do think that you should spend time to create a gorgeous wedding invitation suite because not only do I love photographing them at the start of your day, I think they set the tone to tell your story and your wedding day. Some sites you can get beautiful invitations at a lower cost is Minted and Etsy. If you want to DIY you can always get a template from Etsy and create it on your own.

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Wedding Coordinator/Planner: You can Splurge: 10%-20% of your budget for a wedding planner, and half that for a coordinator depending on amount of time you opt to have them for. OR you can Save and utilize the day of coordinator for your event.

Now I have met so many WONDERFUL wedding planners throughout the years and without them, I am sure everything wouldn’t have been as planned. They are amazing creatives and I have a huge respect for them to get it all right months leading up to the wedding and during. Many venues have their own wedding coordinators who you speak to many times before the wedding, communicating your vision and they are there on the day to be sure it is set up and the way you had hoped. This service is included in the package cost. Because many venues had a coordinator, it is not necessary to have a wedding planner separate from that which will save you a lot of money. However, Wedding planners do beautiful work and can ease from nerves so it is entirely up to you.

Wedding Food: Expect more modern catering to start at $90/pp and up to SAVE money you can choose a buffet style for about $30 + per person. 

You don’t have to serve filet mignon or lobster at your wedding to have guests rave about the food. Many people will use a buffet style service for their wedding with lots of different options and the meal for this do not need to be extravagant. Buffet style will help to save on your budget and everyone will be happily fed.

Wedding Venue: Expect to pay, on average, $3,000 and up for a venue rental for at least 125 people.

This is a tough one to categorize… I mean, venues are not cheap. I wouldn’t want to spend a crazy amount on a rental fee depending on the location for your event and number of people attending. There are so many beautiful venues you can’t step foot in hearing their price is no less than $6,000, and that is okay! just know that there are other area’s you can look at to get the cost down. With the right venue then your flowers, lighting and linens become less expensive letting you now start with a clean canvas that could look amazing with minimal touches. Don’t be afraid to tell the venue your budget and see how they can make it work, especially for a dream venue. You can also eliminate the venue/rental fee and opt to have your wedding at a restaurant, like The Smithville Inn, where my wedding was and many of these things were already included in the package price.

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Wedding Dress: Save $500.00 +

This could be in the spurge section too but I have it here because I know many people who have saved on their wedding dress, myself included! The experience of going to a dress shop with your girls is something that should not be skipped- do it! Book that appointment, but know that you do not need to say “YES” to the dress that day. You can always think about it and go back if needed. That being said, if you think you found THE ONE at a dress shop, there is a 90% chance you can find that dress at a lower cost. How? Well, you can check for a Sample Sale. You can also check online. When I purchased my Sophia Tolli Designer dress originally 1,450.00 I searched high and low looking for the cost to be a little lower than that. I KNEW that was THE ONE and I did not give up. I found it one night on ebay!! Who would have thought?! well, I did and I got my dress, in the right size (whattt) for $800.00. I couldn’t believe it. It was so perfect and to this day I would still choose that same dress, I love it so much! Another website you can check is www.preownedweddingdresses.com

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Wedding Photographer: Splurge: $3,500-$5,000+

There are definitely ways you can save once you have picked out your dream wedding photographer but the key is to choose a wedding photographer who does not market themselves as a “budget” photographer. These photographers are all starting out, and will work with you for whatever it is you are willing to pay. I remember.. I was there once. Now, while there are so many amazing photographers out there who are out of people’s budgets ( mine included to some), there are many outstanding ones too for half the price and they are worth it. Depending on the area you live/are getting married a great photographer might start their prices around $2,500.00. My personal experience and since I am a wedding photographer, I would aim to spend $3500-$5000 (starting) for wedding photography. If you do not have a high budget for Photography, I would consider cutting something else out to make it work. Now this doesn’t mean that if you don’t spend thousands on your wedding photographer you’re going to get mediocre photos. Just keep in mind the location and many bride favorites are in that higher range.

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Wedding Musicians/DJs: Splurge: $1,000-$4,000+

When someone gets engaged, the first thing I tell them is- Book the big stuff first. Venue, Photographer and DJ. I have been to weddings with horrible DJ’s and I have been to weddings with amazing DJs. Meet with them first, share with them your music vision. Plan to choose a DJ with high recommendations on sites like The Knot. You can also ask your photographer or Venue for recommendations they have as well. For my wedding, I had THE BEST DJ in South Jersey. My wedding happened to be his first wedding and we still talk about how amazing the whole day was, and he went over and beyond our musical expectations. Since we were his first wedding, we saved on the DJ but not everyone will have that “luck”, if we call it that. Our DJ is no longer in business but since our wedding he was the DJ for many of our friends, and others! I felt like we helped jump kick his business and I love it. I was sad to hear they ended their business but they have 2 beautiful babies and have more time to spend with them. A way to save money on a DJ is to use a playlist and have a friend take over the music for the night however I don’t recommend this added stress. Invest in a great DJ.

There you have it. My save and splurge recommendations for your wedding day. Like I mentioned before, these are all my opinions when it comes to planning your wedding day. Many people are on a tight budget and I totally understand that. That is okay. There are ways to have the wedding of your dreams with the budget that you have! Have fun planning your big and and don’t be afraid to ask for help when needed.




20 Things to do the week of your wedding day | Wedding Wisdom

20 Things to do the week of your wedding day | Wedding Wisdom

Hi Friends! Happy Tuesday! I am so glad you’re here! Are you a list person like I am… I’m talking bullet points, hand written, have several notebooks with different color pens highliting the most important things you NEED to do in that moment?? You are?! Did we just become best friends?

After months ( or maybe years) of planning, your wedding day is almost here! You have all your vendors confirmed with a time line in place, your dress is ready to be worn, RSVPs have been returned. You Got This!

The week before your wedding can be a little hectic with last minute to-dos. Here is a list to look over to be sure you are not missing anything! With years of being in the wedding industry, and being a bride myself ( almost 9 years ago!) I’ve got you, girl.

Don’t stress. Somethings on this list you can have someone help you with. Thats what bridesmaids are for, right?

Remember to try to stay as flexible as possible during this final countdown. Last minute tweaks will happen, so go with the flow. Just stay on top of things and try to keep your end goal in mind: getting married in a few days!

1.Pickup your wedding dress– You’ll need to pick up your dress the week of the wedding, but don’t stop there! Try it on in full. Be sure to include trying on your shoes and jewelry. Practice that walk down the aisle and make sure everything looks and feels comfortable. Some dresses might require you to test drive a bathroom run to be sure that part of the day can go smooth.

2. Break in your shoes– They’re likely brand new and you’ll be wearing them for a while on the big day. Wear them for a short period of time each day around the house and walk around on a few different surfaces. The ballroom dance teacher in me always recommends to try your first dance together in your shoes. Let your feet get used to them so come the big day you are not in pain because your shoes are hurting your feet.

3. Complete everything you need to do for work– Take care of any big projects or assignments at work early on that week so that you don’t have a to-do list of work tasks floating around in your head. Work is the last thing you want to think about as you head into your wedding weekend. It’s time to relax and enjoy each moment! Go back super refreshed and MARRIED!

4. Last minute RSVP’s- Time to call anyone who hasn’t RSVP’d yet. Reach out to the last-minute guests who haven’t told you whether or not they’re coming to your wedding. You might not want to bother them or cause any wedding drama, but just know that those MIA guests might show up and have nowhere to sit. It’s a great reason to check in with them.

5. Inform Venue of FINAL head count- You’ll want to give the final headcount to your hotel or caterer on the Monday before the wedding (or whenever required by your contract).

6. The Seating Chart- Most of the RSVPs should be in by now, so sit down with your spouse-to-be and finalize the seating arrangements. Be sure to send a copy to your vendors who need it.

7. Confirm Honeymoon Itinerary- Double check your flight times and confirm your hotel bookings and any other activity or dinner reservations you might have.

8. Toasts on the wedding day- If there are a couple of people who are reading a little something special to you and your better half at the wedding or rehearsal dinner, check in with them and confirm. You can also let them know the time frame that they should expect to speak, so that they feel calm and ready for their role.

9. Wedding Gift Captain– Choose a family member to collect the card box, any wedding gifts that guests brought, and any decorations you may want to keep and take them home for you. You may be too busy to remember to do this, or you may be heading to your wedding after-party. Assigning this task to someone else (and someone responsible) will help make sure everything makes it home to you safe and sound.

10. Detail Boxes– Prepare boxes of things you’ll need for the wedding—t the guest book, cake knife, toasting glasses, etc. Deliver them to whoever will be in charge of getting them to the right place.

11.Social Media Master– Assign a trusty bridesmaid or groomsman to take care of any social media logistics like testing out your Snapchat filter on the day of, or encouraging guests to use your wedding hashtag.

12. Welcome Bags– Stuff these with candy and goodies for your out-of-town guests and deliver them to the hotel. That way, when they arrive, they have a package of wedding excitement waiting for them. Don’t forget water bottles. Your guests will love you for them later!

13. Emergency Kit– You can buy one specifically for the occasion or go the DIY route. You’ll want to include things like band aids, nail file, hair spray, pain killers, tampons, a small sewing kit, safety pins, extra makeup….Oh and Chocolate… really…. get some chocolate in there.

14. Pack for your Honeymoon– If you’re leaving for the honeymoon within two days of the wedding, pack your bags. You’ll feel much better having that out of the way. You won’t have to worry about doing laundry or adding last-minute items to your suitcase the morning after your big day.

15. Card for your Love– Go out and get a card- write down a couple of words and feelings for your soon-to-be spouse to read on the morning of the wedding. It will help get them excited and emotional for the day ahead of both of you. This also makes a beautiful moment to capture during the getting ready portion of your day. I just love when couples exchange a little note the day of.

16. Spend some quality time with your fiance’– Coffee Date, Ice Cream Date, a walk around the neighborhood. This is your last week being engaged and you need to enjoy every moment together during this time.

17. Check in with your bridesmaids– Reach out to see if they have any last-minute questions and confirm when/where they should meet on the day of. Bonus points if you can organize a fun ladies brunch or happy hour that week with a possibly mani/pedi.

18.Wedding Party Gifts– Those adorable gifts you bought to thank your bridesmaids for all their hard work? Be sure to wrap them up and include a nice, personalized note with each.

19. Confirm Rehearsal Dinner– If another family member is putting this together for you, check in with them and confirm the details. If you are in charge, confirm the menu, timing, etc.

20. Clean your ring– It is without a doubt that I will be photographing your rings while you get ready to include those images as part of your story details. You definitely want it extra sparkly on your wedding day!

I hope you find these little to-do tasks easy peasy the week leading up to your wedding day. Don’t sweat the small stuff and remember to relax! Soon you will be married and dancing the night away with your family and friends!



My Top 3 Reasons to have an Unplugged Ceremony | Wedding Wisdom

My Top 3 Reasons to have an Unplugged Ceremony | Wedding Wisdom

Do you love photos as much as I do, so much so that you’ve encouraged your friends and family to take as many photos as they can throughout your wedding day? I know. To say I wasn’t one of those people I would be lying. I wanted every photo taken from our wedding day. I wanted people to take their phones out, post things to Facebook and send it all to me. At the time I did not realize that those phones and camera’s would be in some of the professional photos we paid for. While it did not bother me much then, looking back, and now being a photographer, I wish I had everyone unplug and be in the moment as we said our wedding vows.

If you are someone who doesn’t want the phone out, and from the start want people to enjoy the day and not worry about taking their own photos, I applaud you. This I know can be hard for some people, but its wonderful to see hands free of devices while I am photographing a ceremony.

There are strong arguments on both sides. There really is something special seeing your wedding day unfold from your guests eyes, but many photographers have noted that having “guest photographers” often compromises how your professional photos will be in the end.

Not too long ago I was talking to my sister about her wedding and if she wanted guests to be taking photos in the church they will be married in. She told me she did not think about it too much yet but she did see some signs that talked about being unplugged. She asked me what I thought about it and if I thought having an unplugged ceremony is a good idea. Now, my sister loves to have her photos taken. She is so beautiful and so confident that being in front of a camera is easy for her. Wouldn’t she want more people capturing images of her and not just the photographer?

Now, don’t get me wrong. I do not have a problem with guests taking photos and sharing them later with the couples. I encourage this! It makes me happy to know that there are other pictures and photos of moments that I may have missed. I also whole heartedly understand that some guests may have a love for capturing photos and enjoy taking pictures at weddings that they attend.

However, my heart breaks when a guest ruins an otherwise lovely image or jumps in front of me when I’m capturing a key moment from the day. It completely destroys me when this happens because, while I am not remotely egotistical at all, I am pretty confident that my image would have been better than the one they captured. Over the years of being a professional wedding photographer, it’s been sad to watch the progression from seeing smiling, encouraging and happy faces as the bride is escorted up the aisle to faces hidden behind the backs of cameras and cell phones that line the aisle.

Here are the reasons why I am happy when I hear of couples opting for an Unplugged Wedding — or, at the very least, an Unplugged Ceremony.

  1. During a few weddings, I have had guests shove me aside or step in front of me to get the shot. When a guest steps in front of me or is standing in the aisle, I always get sad. The end result is that your attention immediately goes to them and not the real subject of the image. I have so many photos of the bride and grooms first kiss or while they are walking down the aisle and there are cell phones in the air, iPads out in the aisle and again, guests standing in front of me.
  2. If a guest photographer is using a flash, there is nothing that can be done to save the image I take. The type of camera does not matter- the flash from it is almost always way too bright to work with once it goes off.
  3. I usually do not mind when guests are there taking photos of the family portraits and bridal party behind me however at this time on the wedding day, I need to get those portraits done fast. Eyes tend to wander around to anyone and everyone who is not me when I am the one setting up the shot. Sometimes guests will be standing a little in front of me, but close enough to me where they are in the frame and I’ve had to ask them to move for me explaining that they are in the photo.

My #1 priority the day of the wedding is on my Ali B Bride and Ali B Groom. I pour my heart into the quality of the portraits, and if there is a lot of people chatting behind me, it can slow down the timeline a bit. A tip for you is have your guests go directly to cocktail hour, put their camera down and enjoy the party. I will take care of the portraits of the special people in your life and then they can take all the photos they want after that.


At one wedding, prior to the ceremony, the officiant read this: “Welcome, friends and family! Good evening, everyone. Please be seated. Michael and Kelly invite you to be truly present at this special time. Please, turn off your cell phones and put down your cameras. Ali B Photography is here and she will capture amazing photos how this moment looks and I am sure she will share them with you— I encourage you all to capture how it feels with your hearts, without the distraction of technology.” The guests all obeyed, and even after the ceremony, many decided to keep their arms down and their hearts open and enjoyed the day, instead of being an observer from behind their cameras.

You can also add a sign to your ceremony entrance or a note on your invitations or program!

Where to purchase a sign:





Wedding Invitation Timeline| Wedding Wisdom

Wedding Invitation Timeline| Wedding Wisdom

Friends! It’s the start of the new year…. YOUR WEDDING YEAR! AHHH! You are searching all over Pinterest, the knot, and so many other wedding websites and you see so many different things when it comes to sending out save the dates and invitations to your guests.

Since being in the wedding industry for a few years now, here is what I recommend when it comes to the timeline of your beautiful paper products!


  • If you are planning a destination wedding it is recommended that you send out your Save The Dates 8-12 months before your wedding day.
  • If you are planning a local wedding it is recommended that you send out your save the dates 6-8 Months before your wedding day.

Sending out Save the Dates are not a requirement in the wedding planning process, however, they are a great way to let guests decide to turn your wedding into a mini getaway. All save the dates sent out help to give your guests a friendly heads up that something special is happening this year and you want them there.


  • Destination weddings should be sent out with plenty enough time so that your guests can make their travel plans. It is recommended that you send them out 3-4 months in advance. Proper travel and hotel accommodations will be needed.
  • For a local wedding. sending them out too early is such a thing. It is recommended they be sent out 4-8 Weeks before your wedding day so that their anticipation to attend your wedding lines up with your wedding day.


  • Destination Weddings usually are about 3-5 weeks before to have the final count handed in
  • Local weddings can be about 2-3 weeks depending on when your venue needs to know.

Your RSVP Deadline will depend on how much time is needed for your vendors to gather the information to put into play. The first one is to consider your meal count that the vendor will need. I advise you to check with your vendors to see when they would need a head count and have the RSVP date on the return card be what they recommend.


Thank you cards should be send out immediately following your wedding day. Enjoy the honey moon and then get to work on creating your thank you cards.

Believe it or not, you will most likely begin to get gifts before you even walk down the aisle! Friends and family who can not attend your wedding may send you something in advance. You can send their thank you’s right away to minimize your workload after the wedding day.

Once you are home and settled in from your honeymoon. you can start preparing these. I recommend that you send them out no later than 4 weeks from your wedding day.